Selecting the Dating Service

Do not have any illusion about a free lunch: you have to take a paid membership. Don't let yourself be limited. Also the 20 or 30 dollars per month are nothing compared to the money you will probably spend on yourself going out with women. Oh, and yes, since we arrive at dating etiquette here: do not spend money on her, do not buy her dinner. Most women do not like the feeling of being in debt.

A one-month membership usually suffices, as it will get you about 10 meets. (Those quick at math calculate that one meet costs 2 dollars for the membership, so that is okay.)

Three things are important when selecting your dating service:Size – Purely practical: the biggest dating community has most of the girls. Also a funny effect: like a party, with a decreasing amount of people, the most interesting people leave first, and so are the nicest women. There is really a big difference in the population of the few biggest sites, compared to the smaller ones.Non-members reachable – This is something you have to figure out: try to find an Internet dating service where you can reach girls, regardless whether they themselves have a paid membership or not.

Some Internet dating sites block your messages and nag the girls with curiosity: they should be put out of business. The sites that do allow sending messages to women that do not have a paid membership, also allow you to reach women that made an online profile just for the fun of it. Unspoiled beach guarantees a great time.

Another detail you need to check: some dating services have online mailboxes; some send your message to the woman's email box. The latter is preferable, since that way you are in a woman's daily email digest. With the other sites she has to take action to get your message, and since there is a lot of dull men polluting their attention, she may not want to do that.Character – The least tangible thing: each dating service has a kind of character. Some are strongly moderated and have all serious people. Some are freer and have a lot of strange girls. Some have a party like layout and options and attract party girls.

Surf around and feel whether you like the site and its visitors.

Take your pick.