Getting Towards a Date

After her first reaction; write a little about yourself (not all, make it fun, tell your passions).

Then write something intelligent about her response. Like: hmmm... says a lot about you. The fact that you are busy to get to know her, and then choose her for her preferences is very powerful.

Then throw her another game, test or challenge. "Let me ask you these 5 questions to figure out exactly what your character is like."

Go doctor Phil. Check her sign of the zodiac and feed it back: you are creative, a little stubborn, but still very sensitive. She picks up the things that are correct and like you for it.

Then when another reaction comes back, third mail: write fluff and more emotional stuff, you need more improvisation here, as you are getting further away from your initial start.

In the middle of the third mail write: "You're cool / nice / interesting, I might be so crazy as to send you my phone number".

Write some more chit chat about what fun life you had and how you had a great time going out with friends last weekend, then end with 'greetings, Ronald and PS:

Yes I do send you my phone number: 0123 456 789, call me (text message also appreciated)".

If she doesn't call you within three days, write her a reminder. Same thing if she keeps emailing.

After a second chance, if she does not call, drop her in a funny way. Write something like: "hmmm... I guess you can not count to 10, that's a real requirement to go out with me."

Some women bounce back and still call you on such a mail. If she does not, then continue with the others.

Why you may ask? Well, many girls are uncertain. Keeping on mailing entertains her, but wastes your time, as she probably does not dare to call you. Imagine how much work you would need to do to make her call, and then how much more work you need to get her to come on a date. Not to mention the chances she will flake in the very last moment.

It really is about meeting. You can also write her that in your fourth and last mail.

For when you wonder why some women act like this: A lot (and yes, I mean a lot) of women have very bad experiences with men that keep on chasing and stalking them after they said 'no'. A woman that is hurt in such a way will judge you to be the same, initially. You will have the task to show that men are not that bad after all...

Aiming your arrows at women that, like you, like the real life meeting, makes you meet more women with the same effort.

The first contact

Most likely she will send you a text message. When it arrives, message back within a reasonable time (like 15 minutes or so). Later, for instance that evening, do announce that you are going to call her.

"You home this evening?".

Surprising her by calling gives bad vibes. After all you ARE a stranger running into her life.

Cal her, talk 20 to 30 minutes, say how funny it is to hear her voice now, do some charming stuff and then say: hey we should meet.

Draw agendas and plan a date. Go somewhere public (so she feels safe and has the possibility to run, never happens, but the notion to her is soothing) and somewhere where you know the place. Tell her it's really cool and make her come to see that also.

It is very important to get the date in the first phone call, besides the fact she expects it (it delights her to hear she is popular), you also have surprise and delight working in your favor on the first phone call. The second phone call or third will be less exciting. It is my experience that if you do not make a date in the first call, it will rarely happen afterwards.

When you run into her voicemail, put up a warm and friendly voice and say something like: "hey, it's Ronald, hoped to talk to you, you're not here. Speak to you later." The 'hope to talk to you' reflects on her: she'll be hoping to talk to you too thereafter.

The voicemail is like a little present to her too: a stranger called, ooh! It's him... this is what his voice is like! Not leaving a voicemail, leaves a void... a stranger called, and I do not know who it was.

Reconfirm your date

Especially when it will be a long time between the first call and the meeting, reconfirm it. If it is more than two weeks, call her again somewhere in the middle. Talk and just have a nice time getting to know each other.

Early in the evening before the day you are going to meet, reconfirm you are going to meet her. Text message something like: "Cruise is leaving tomorrow, you've got your boarding ticket ready?" She'll come back with 'yes captain!'.