To break a habit takes effort, conscious effort in combination with every sub-conscious trick in the book

From the bottom of my heart I wish you the change you desire (provided of course it is for your good and those it affects good).

There are several levels to change, but the one that will cause the most profound effect is environment.

There is an NLP technique called anchoring... which is basically the same as the experiment Pavlov did with ringing bells and feeding dogs.

This conditioned the dog over time to get hungry when he heard a ringing bell.

But you can be conditioned to anchors that are based on what you see and touch as well...

So anything you see, hear or touch can cause an anchor and anchors can trigger thought about something.

For example if you smoke, see someone smoke can trigger the desire for a cigarette or hearing someone talk about smoking can cause the desire for a cigarette.

You see how they work as an anchor?

Well the key here is that its things in your environment that provides the stimulus and your unconscious conditioned response causes the behaviour (the habit).

How to break that connection?

#1 Cold Turkey

This essential means fighting the desire, ignoring it and doing something else.

#2 Reconditioning

This is actually remarkable similar to the above, except you are taking action to help link the anchors to the required new behaviour.

This is the field of NLP and Hypnosis.

I recommend studying these fields because they are an eye opening experience to how the mind works (which is a super conversation topic with women).

All of the techniques basically come down to one thing... take the response that is currently linked to the stimulus and change it to something else.

This is the first thing recommended by Stephen Covey in his book "The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People".

He talks about using the gap between stimulus and response and inserting a choice there, and being able to respond in a way you choose.

This is being responsible, very important.

#3 Change Environment

This uses both of the above and in my opinion works the best...

I have to say that the biggest changes I got in my life were definitely the result of changing my environment.

I have moved to different countries several times... and every time habit patterns were smashed.

There is a massive 'change event' that may last several weeks that really marks the point in time that the change starts.

You are forced to react differently to everything because everything is new.

Now I'm not saying you need to more to a different country (but you should at least consider travelling), but what I am saying is that changing things on all different levels is important

Things that are in your environment that need changing...

• The clothes you wear
• The way you go to and from work
• What you do in your lunch hour

Basically anything that is routine in your life, change it at least a little, loosen the tight grip on doing things the way you did yesterday.

What you are doing when you change these things is ensuring that the old input doesn't appear in your environment. New input appears and therefore you need to get straight into it and provide new behaviour to link with it.

Make a change to what goes in and what comes out will change.

This will also help you in your dating life, for example doing the approach missions or speed dating in an environment that you have no anchors in means you create you conditioning.

Avoid anywhere that you have had limited success, go to a new environment.

Remember, you need to replace the old behaviour, with new behaviour.

To choose the new road to walk down (remember starting with something as simply as walking further each day is great) use a positive image of you succeeding to get you there.

We'll go into more detail later about goals, but you need them and thinking in postivie terms of having succed your goal is what gets you going.

So make a change in your input and then immediately start a new habit, build a new pattern and change your life.