You won't get very far with women if you don't know how to talk to them. The same goes for children, bosses, customer service personnel, and just about every other type of person on the planet. For your social situations with any (or all) of these people to be successful, you need to have the right social skills. When it comes to talking to women you want to date, there are a few basic skills to remember. Be nice, be relaxed and be confident.

The nice one is a no-brainer. First of all, forget what you've heard about women and “bad boys.” Though some screwed-up women out there really do want men who will treat them badly, 99% of the single female population are just looking for someone who will be kind to them. This goes completely against what many pickup courses tell you to do. These systems actually encourage men to be rude to women! Between backhanded compliments and borderline rude banter about what kind of woman she is, this doesn't tell a woman you want to date her – it tells her you're a jerk. Not only will you get her attention more easily just by being nice, this technique works twice as well now that every other idiot that approaches a woman is insults her.

Relaxed is a little more difficult. You don't necessarily have to feel calm when you talk to her, you just have to look the part. Take a deep breath, bring your shoulders down from up around your ears, and stop fidgeting when you talk to her. Use direct eye contact and good body language to show that you're interested in talking to her, but not anxious about it. This can be hard to pull off at first, but as you talk to women over time you'll have a much easier time engaging them in an easygoing conversation.

Confidence might be the hardest of all. Especially if you've experienced rejection after rejection, it takes a lot of courage to go up and say hello to someone. All those bad experiences can get you feeling down about yourself, and that's not an easy thing to fix. The key here is to remember that there's nothing wrong with you. You and those women just weren't meant to be. It doesn't make you any less of a catch for the right woman, it's just kept you free to find her.

Instant Street Dating will help you develop these key social skills, to improve your experiences in talking to women and help you get the dates you deserve.